Speaking of criticism, I think there are two ways to interpret criticism that can keep us from losing our cool and turn a potentially negative encounter into a positive one: Recognize the truth in the criticism. We really can learn to focus our attention on what is being said while ignoring how it is being said. The critique just may be accurate or partially so and our offense, and resulting defensiveness, can prevent us from catching an area of needed growth.
Bex June 10, at 8: What would of been the harm in that? Several posters seem to have over-reacted to an excellent, thoughtful piece. And from the anecdotes she relates, it seems that was much appreciated.
But if, as is inevitable, the little girl is wondering about her looks, how she is perceived, then of course a compliment is appropriate.
Dodging the question will absolutely convey a negative result. For me this was just a little girl wanting to hear her mommy say she loved her and thought she was as pretty and the other little girls parents thought their daughter was Monica June 12, at Why avoid it all together?
Please, add some balance to life!!! Geovanni June 13, at 6: Please note this is an assumption based on the info in the comment above. It does help their self esteem as with boys being called handsome as well rather than not being sure if they are ugly.
It happens with both men and women. I am not suggesting to get make up kit or focus the majority of compliments on looks, but build up their self esteem about their physical attributes as well. Maybe my suggestion is horribly wrong.
Aarthi June 15, at So that she knows she is pretty but that her other qualities are what really set her apart.
Dalaina May July 3, at 9: The first sister, a beautiful girl, all her life, heard her parents talk about how smart her sister was.
The other, a brilliant mind, heard only about how beautiful her sister was. As adults, the first sister thought herself to be stupid, and the second sister thought herself to be ugly. Girls are intelligent and able to do anything that they want in life, as long as there are parents behind them with encouragement and love.
Well, she had two brothers to play with and instead of balletshe is a 2nd Black Belt in Taekwondo and competes in local and national competitions. She is smart, she is beautiful and she is strong.
She is also doing something that she loves and works very hard with her coach to be the best that she can in her chosen sport. She is taking pre-ap classes and some 9th grade classes while in the 9th grade.
She is now my idea of what a girl should be, strong, smart and passionate about her life. Nicole Devlin September 3, at 5: I am only 20, but I used to nanny for this family that was all about looks, status, and being 1 at everything.
The mother was obsessed with having the best beauty products, the best handbag she had a collectionexpensive clothes, the latest apple product, and even commented that I was valuable because of how pretty and young I was.
Their 7 yr old daughter was warped into this thinking and while her mother meant to do well, there clearly is going to be body issues and self esteem problems for this girl when she grows up.
I could only do so much as a nanny without over stepping my boundaries, but I completely agree that adults should learn how to talk to little girls. I think parents should educate themselves better on this issue and realize that what they do effects their children greatly.Dino tea party, by KaffySmaffy on Tumblr.
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